About Me


I love writing because I have a better chance of saying what I mean when I have time to think than when I talk. Both writing and talking are experimental for me. The only problem is that I can't edit what I say as easily as I can edit what I write! 

I love taking photographs because I don't have to use words at all. I've loved taking pictures all of my adult life--it's not something I've studied or claim any proficiency at doing--I just love the looking and the clicking. I see you, flower, bird, person, piece of sidewalk. You are so beautiful.

I love working as a writing coach because no one, I think, can get a person on track and writing as well as I can. I spent thirty years not writing and then, in 93 days, I wrote a book. I understand not being able to write, and I also understand the importance of writing and how to go from blocked to free. I see blocks and stories in people the way others see eye or skin color.

The adoptee healing retreats I do with Pam Cordano feel holy. I can't imagine what my younger life would have been like if I'd been able to have a community of people who understood me and people there to give me tools I needed to step fully into my true self. Well, that's not true: I can imagine it: it would be like is is now: one based more on curiosity than fear. 

Thank you for being here. I am so glad we are connected. More than anything, I think it is in community that we thrive. 



Book: You Don’t Look Adopted

I wrote this book in 93 days. If I can do it, anyone can. 


Movie: Phantom Halo

Antonia and I made a movie. I still can't believe it. Being in a theater and listening to characters speak a world you created is amazing.